When
my friend Angela of Jumping With My Fingers Crossed tagged me to be a part of a
blog tour she was participating in, and said that all I had to do was write a
blog post about my writing process, I was all, “Yeah, man! There’s nothing I like better than talking
about how I do things! I have so much to
offer the world I am the QUEEN of the writing process WHEEEEEEEEE!!!!
Then
I cruised on over to her post about her writing process, and also checked out this one, and that one, and this one, and that one, and this one, to see how other
bloggers – ahem, writers – do their thing.
I
was a little intimidated.
I
mean, these guys are for real, people.
Many bloggers who I know and read are real writers who write for
newspapers and magazines and have written books or are working on books and
write for websites and own websites and have English degrees and get paid and EVERYTHING. I’m a person who sits at her laptop and hammers
out sentences and paragraphs that serve mainly to expose that I’m a weirdo.
Then
I remembered that just a few weeks ago I went to a writing conference where
Phil Donahue himself told me personally that You Can Write, that this is my
purpose, that I have a responsibility to share my experiences, feelings, and
ideas. And by personally I mean that I was sitting in the back of a hotel
ballroom while he was speaking to me and 300 other people.
And
then I considered again these other writers who I read, and I saw myself as a
part of their group, and I climbed up out of my shame hole. And they inspired me, as only writers can do
for each other. I can write. And I have a writing process. And ho-ho-ho, I’m gonna share it with you.
1. What am I working on?
Always,
always blog posts. I write two blogs –
this one and a faith one called Stumbling Everyday. I try posting in each regularly, but I’m not
always successful. I work on several
blog posts at a time, which means that at any given point there are a few unfinished
ones hanging around, and when they’re finished I’ll clean them up and hit the
old publish button. Or maybe I won’t
publish them at all, which happened recently - I wrote two posts that I decided
not to publish for different reasons.
Maybe someday you’ll read them.
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Look! It's a picture of THIS BLOG POST in draft form. I'm blowing your mind right now. |
I
also write the occasional guest post, appear in articles for writer friends, or
less frequently, do sponsored posts. I
love to be published on other websites but mainly that has happened with posts
that I’ve already published on my blog.
I’d love to say that I write a lot that will bypass the blog to go
directly to editors, since it is a huge thrill for me to send something out
there to be read and judged and deemed worthy for publication, but for now I
got nothing. Life is really, really busy
this time of year, and this year especially, so unfortunately I’m not devoting
as much time to writing as I wish I could right now. Aaaaand I have a terrible Facebook
habit. There I said it.
2. How does my writing
differ from others in its genre?
I
believe that even if all writers write about the same topic, we will each have
something different to say. My writing
differs from others in its genre because it’s MY voice. Nobody else writes like I do because I’m the only
me out here.
I am honest. I write like I think. I am not afraid to tell you that I messed up. It’s sort of what I strive to talk
about. If I did something stupid, and I'm aware of it (oh, boy, that's the whole key, isn't it?), you can be sure that you'll read about it here.
Sometimes
I write humor, and sometimes my writing is heartfelt, and I won’t lie – I
worry about not having a specific genre.
I am working on combining the two a little bit better, because I have
really serious thoughts that morph into humorous ones pretty quickly, and there’s
a way to write like this that I just haven’t mastered. On days that I think I succeed at this, the
angels sing, and the days that I don’t, I just hit the publish button and get another cup of coffee.
3. Why do I write what I
do?
I
want people to read what I write and say “Huh.
She is really awkward. Sometimes
I feel like this. I can totally
relate.” I want to encourage people to
not be afraid to be themselves. If my little blog can encourage even one
person to be brave enough to say “You know what? I screwed up, and I feel like an idiot, and I
will do better next time,” than I am over the moon happy.
I
feel like our society puts too much emphasis on showing only the best parts of
who we are, and people really suffer because they feel they can never measure
up. I want to come alongside them and
say, “So you messed up. Everybody
does. It’s not the end of the
world. Now get out there and do
better.” And then I’ll slap them on the
fanny and watch them run off to tackle the world and maybe even trip over their
own feet in the process and I’ll laugh at them and with them because when
people trip over their own feet it’s totally hilarious for everyone involved.
4. How does my writing
process work?
So
I get up at five o’clock in the morning.
I
know: Crazytown. But I am a super duper
morning person. I read a little, and
write in a journal, and then I open my drafts document and I write. Some days, I already have an idea
all ready to go and I just write it out.
Other days I sit in front of my computer and peck away and give up and go
read some more. Then the kids are up and
I help them get ready to go and I take a walk and I come back and write.
When
I have a new idea but I don’t have the time to expand on it, I quick type up a
sentence or two and a title – always a title – and the date to get it down in
draft form before my mind eats the idea. When I publish something, I transfer it to a
“finished” document to avoid republishing something.
Throughout
the day I write here and there, and other than chores and errands and
appointments I am at the computer. I
keep pads of paper and post-its everywhere that I use to jot down ideas – in
the car, in desks, in my purse. I combine all these pieces of paper in a little notebook I
keep on my desk and when I get stuck I refer to them.
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Where the magic happens. It's so magical that I don't even need a computer. |
I don't always use these paper scraps ideas. Sometimes
I don’t remember where I was going with an idea. Once I wrote an idea for a blog post on my
checkbook ledger and it contained the following little gem: “Jam out with your
clam out. Milk, milk, lemonade. Around the corner, fudge is made.” That was fun to read every time I opened my
checkbook to log a debit.
My
biggest struggle with writing is avoiding time-absorbing social media. I also struggle with writing before doing everything else. When I publish
something I feel like I am released to do other things, but until then I feel a
constant pull or redirection toward getting something written. I think this constant pull is why writers sometimes
feel a little crazy. We operate in our
own heads so much and there’s never an end to the task. I try to tell myself that if I write a little
everyday I’ve done well. Sometimes I believe it.
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Part of this blog tour is to tag other writers to share their writing
process. I am fortunate to have many
friends who also write, so it wasn’t
hard for me to come up with a couple of people to do one of these posts and continue the blog tour! Look for their posts soon.
First is Kim of Co-Pilot Mom, a blog about life with her husband, Co-Pilot Dad, and
their adorable boys, Alpha and Bravo (not their real names, silly!). I
adore Kim’s writing - her style is warm, funny, and heartfelt. She weaves stories with details that make me smile, and reflects about life as a
mom and wife in a way that I relate to so much. Kim has a knack for using words and images that I instantly connect with I love pouring a cup of coffee and reading Kim's blog.
Second is Erin from One-Sided Momma. Erin kicks me in the teeth with everything she writes. And that is a good thing. Also a mom of two, Erin tells stories about her life with such rawness of emotion and honesty that I often find myself laughing and yet coming away from her blog in tears. Also gifted with the use of imagery that I can fully relate to, she dares you to stand next to her and see things from her very eloquent perspective.
Second is Erin from One-Sided Momma. Erin kicks me in the teeth with everything she writes. And that is a good thing. Also a mom of two, Erin tells stories about her life with such rawness of emotion and honesty that I often find myself laughing and yet coming away from her blog in tears. Also gifted with the use of imagery that I can fully relate to, she dares you to stand next to her and see things from her very eloquent perspective.
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