Friday, May 23, 2014

I Just Don’t Do It

You probably haven’t noticed, but I am not as prolific on the ol’ bloggeroo as I used to be.

Okay, you also don’t care.

So of course I’m going to talk about it, because I need to process this and you are here, so I’m going to make you care, you big old sourpuss.  I’m going to make you love me.

Once upon a time when About 100% was new and I was still wondering if the name was too obtuse or silly or meaningless (is it obtuse or silly or meaningless?) I was cranking out 18 posts a month.

Two points for you if you can spot this photo elsewhere on my blog.

All right – that happened once.  I was a rock star that month.

I’m not consistent in churning out posts.  Certain times I write more.  It has nothing to do with the season, or having more time to write.  Being busy should have little effect on writing.  You can write anywhere, anytime, for as little as ten minutes a day, they say.  I believe them.  Christmas and Halloween (Halloween is a big deal, peeps - get on board) and the end of the school year and even my Birthdayyyyy, heyyyyy are no excuse for not writing.  If I had an office job or worked at Gymboree or shoveled mulch for a living, like hordes of other bloggers do, I’d be plenty busy and still find time to do this thing.  My lack of productivity also has nothing to do with having nothing to write about.

I think it’s been pretty clear if you’re a regular reader of my blog that I don’t always have something to write about.

So why the inconsistency in output?  Why is it that in one month I will write 18 blog posts, and the next, scratch out only 5?

Hold onto your pants now, children, because I’m about to release a truth that will blow them right off your body.

I’m not disciplined.

I don’t write because I don’t take the time.  Of all the measly excuses out there, I have the measliest one.  I just don’t do it.

I have the time to do it.  I have eschewed all but the most necessary of household tasks during the work/school week to make more time for myself to write.  Nary a dishrag runs over a countertop during the days that I am home in the name of writing, of honing my craft, of fulfilling this obligation to myself, my family, the world.  Muahaha.

Oh, coffee.  I can't quit you.

And doo doo dooo, I rattle around the house most days and look out the window, make the bed, drink some coffee and eat a whole bag of chocolate-covered pomegranates from the bulk store.  I cruise over to Facebook and say whaddup to my peeps, try to figure out Twitter for the millionth time and why am I even on Twitter and let’s not even talk about Pinterest.  Then it’s three o’clock and I’m on the couch watching Ellen and the kids are coming through the door.

Freakin’ Ellen.  I love everything about her.

Discipline.  I don’t have it.

It’s the hardest part of blogging for me – having the discipline to actually do it, to sit down and say the words that swirl in my brain.  To write, to type, to make notes on post-its and in journals.  It’s not hard to do, and since it’s my blog, it doesn’t even matter that the thoughts and words make sense, that they help others, that they make people laugh or cry or learn.  This is where I work those things out.  Key word: work.

It’s the ultimate goal, what every writer wants – to change the world and the way people think, to see what we all see in a different way, to touch emotions, to share stories, to relate – oh, to relate.   I created my blog to work toward this, with the understanding that I will get better and better at it, and I have made it my job to do this, have arranged my time at home to do this.  And sometimes I do it, but more times lately, I just don't.  My lack of discipline makes me the worst employee ever.

One who eats all the chocolate-covered pomegranates.



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This post inspired by:

Mama’s Losin’ It

Prompt #1: The most challenging part about blogging for you is…

27 comments:

  1. I hear you. Loud and clear. I can't pinpoint my problem, exactly. Sometimes I blame it on not having anything to say. Sometimes, I believe I am trying to find an excuse not to write so that I don't have to do the work. But I think maybe you are right on the money: I just am not disciplined enough. The only think that helps for me is to get out of the house and go to the library to write.
    I wish you lived nearby. Then we could discuss this over coffee while not writing.

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    1. We would get so much not writing done if we lived closer. :)

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  2. I get this so much. The discipline is the hardest part for me, too. I just don't have it. Which is why I spent my writing time watching tv this morning and sending emails about said tv. I suppose I could have writing a blog post about it...but that just didn't happen.

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    1. That's what I struggle with - that almost anything could be written about, but I just don't want to do it. So I drink coffee to get more energy to do it, and oh, you know what goes with coffee? Cookies. And TV. Or reading other people's blogs.

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  3. I'm not going to lie, I think I prefer the chocolate covered acai berries, although I don't really know what acai berries are. They could be jellybeans for all I know. (And those are the thoughts that go through MY mind while I should be writing…)

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    1. I confess that I also don't know what acai berries are, and I've never tried them because I'm afraid of the commitment. Which might also be my biggest problem with writing.

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  4. I am so glad I met you in Dayton.
    I love everything about this post.
    EVERYTHING.

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    1. Thanks, Kari! I'm so glad we met, too. I'm glad you can relate to this. Or at least be cool with how much a of a slacker I am.

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  5. Um, yes. That's me. I have never ever written every day though technically speaking, I definitely can. My kids are in school in the morning, and I don't even always have to go pick them up. I have a lot of down time for someone with two young kids, and I don't do the work of writing as often as I should. Because I am lazy. I am not as dedicated to my craft as I should be.

    I totally suck at my job too! (but shhhh, don't tell the people who pay me to write weekly articles - somehow I still manage to turn those in on time)

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    1. I think that if I was being paid I'd be a lot more motivated to write. However, writing is one of those professions where you have to actually do it for a while to be paid, so therein lies my problem.

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  6. I do have discipline but for this, and only this!
    I can't even describe the disaster area of the rest of my life.
    I think you're pretty current lately but I like how sometimes you're commenting on my blog posts, maybe a week or two or more behind. I'll get these emails with great comments and it's comforting to know someone is still reading those forgotten posts. Kudos!

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    1. I'm glad you can appreciate my "little late" comments. I'm always a week or two (or three) behind on blog reading. I can't quit it! I get a lot of inspirations from other writers.

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  7. 1. This is going to sound crazy, especially coming from a dude. But, I've mastered it. All of it. This. I don't pull it off even close to perfection. But I have a method that will guarantee that, unless my fingers all fall off and the tip of my nose proves a sorry substitute for typing, I will never, ever run out things to write, or fall off my writing routine.

    I told you it sounds ridiculous. I shouldn't even hit "publish" on this comment. But I have it. It doesn't always produce a VOTY gem, or even something you'll want to tweet out, but it will become a post and it will get published and it won't suck.

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    1. I can get to that point when I have deadlines, or when I know I'm going to be away and won't be blogging. I've been known to churn out four blog posts in a day and schedule a few weeks ahead of time. The It's getting to that point that is the problem for me - the keeping the ball rolling.

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  8. I'm the same way. Except, when I have the words swirling in my head, that's the only time I sit down and write them. And that doesn't happen often.

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    1. It's because there's so much other stuff that swirls the words right out of your head most times, isn't it? Or is that just me? :)

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  9. First, you have chocolate covered pomegranates? Awesome. Now I want some.
    Next, I feel like that photo is on your post about 5AM? Maybe.

    Now, for real comment. I completely understand - note how sparse my posts are in the last weeks. I think we could definitely sit and have a long chat over coffee or chocolate covered something about this. Not sure if I come from the same place or not. Lack of discipline? Yes, I absolutely have that. But. I don't know if I necessarily fit in the camp with those who say that you can only be a good writer if you are disciplined. Doesn't work for everybody. I did the crank out daily posts thing for a while but it made me sad. I can't put my finger on why - several reasons, really, I think. I'm choosing not to see my sparse posting as a lack of effort or message, but rather as embracing that it's just where I am right now - working on other things, taking my time about the words I eventually will hit publish on, and when the time is right, I'll put something up.

    In the meantime, I love that you still come and read and like Tamera said, it makes me smile when I see you comment on an older post. :)

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    1. Thanks Lisa! I'd love to chat over coffee about this with you! It's probably my favorite thing to do.

      I find that I feel better when I post less, too. I don't know why. I guess it's because one or two good posts per week make me feel better than three or four lazy ones.

      And reading other blogs always makes me feel better, too.

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  10. This is exactly why I don't exercise. Discipline. So I get it. I'm actually kind of proud of you for not putting yourself in a box to blog because you think you have to or because you think people expect it from you. It makes you so genuine to know that you're blogging because you WANT to that day. That's the part of blogging I struggle with a lot.

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    1. Yeah. I don't always have something to say. I remind myself pretty often that this is for me first, and having other people read what I write is icing on the cake. I try not to feel guilty for not posting every day. Or even every week.

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  11. Wow. I'm sorta kinda glad you don't write more because I don't like to miss your posts. As I've told you a million times, I looove your posts. And I have no time!

    Because I'm undisciplined.

    Can I have some chocolate-covered pomegranates?

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    1. Being disciplined in reading is almost as hard as being disciplined in writing.

      You know what I'm really disciplined at?

      Eating chocolate-covered pomegranates.

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  12. I just adore those little chocolate-covered pomegranates!

    btw, It 's more important that you post KICK ASS content 2-3 times per month than irrelevant shit 15 times per month.

    Don't you agree?! x

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    1. I agree, because I have a hard time posting anything 15 times a month. Even irrelevant shit. :)

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  13. I had to stop, get up, and write down chocolate covered pomegranates because THE HELL? THOSE EXIST? And yeah. I'm the same. I have the time. When I say I don't have the time? Lying. Totally lying. I have it. I just let it slide on by. And now I'm going to get chocolate covered fruit.

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  14. But see the thing is? You do do it! (I just typed "do do", SNORT) (Can you tell I have boys?)

    Anyway, back to you... Sure, maybe you don't publish on your blog as often as you think you should but I think that is okay. I am pretty much at the point where I think posting (for me anyway) is definitely a quality over quantity thing. Although I tend to think your quality is there no matter the quantity. (that was a compliment, btw)

    This comment is rambly - so sorry.

    All this to say: Post when you want and when it works. I love to read it ALL! xo

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  15. I tell myself that I will be more disciplined once my youngest is in school - but I know that's a bunch of crap. Ha!

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